Self-Kindness Over 40 & Daily Practices Now

Self-Kindness Over 40 & Daily Practices offers a handful of ideas for self-kindnesses I try to bestow these days. While I’m well beyond 40, I see no reason younger followers shouldn’t be part of the fun. Times are hard, and we’re all in this together, kittens. Since we’re all doing the best we can, do let yourself off the hook if you haven’t yet!

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Self-Kindness Over 40: Daily Practices as well as Sweet Indulgences

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Self-Kindness Over 40 & Daily Practices

1. SEEING BETTER: Literally & Metaphorically

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Spiritual Vision & Self-Kindness

I rarely thought about a spiritual lens before I turned 40. However, as life experiences, parenting woes, and new challenges changed me, fresh questions and spiritual concerns bubbled up too. Turns out, greater kindness to myself expands my capacity for kindness to overflow to others.

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Daily Spiritual Practices

Centering prayer, meditation, scripture, silence, solitude, walking, and being out in nature open my soul. Sometimes it takes life changes, liminal space, and loss for significant depth to come. But it can also grow from fierce desire. Even a lack of desire need not keep you from the depths.

You can seek the grace for desire to grow within you.

Seven years ago, my desire to SEE burned so bright in my heart that other parts of me (will, ego, pride) didn’t have a chance!

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When Practices Become Daily Rhythms

Daily spiritual practices can be built into your day. I do them without expecting to be blessed or consoled, but the time is truly never wasted. They become practice for letting go, staying undefended, and becoming more teachable.

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Seeing as God sees has not been a strategy for aerie faerie happiness as much as a humbling, embodied, evolving education flowering from daily wonder and disappointments.

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2. FEELING BETTER in Skin

Skin Care Regimen

My routine has become rather streamlined and simple these days.

I use Jenni Kayne’s Oak Essentials Routine day and night:

Since my skin is prone to rosacea (a result of Crohn’s disease and GI problems), makeup has been a way for me to face the world with more confidence. There are days I simply want to start my day with a healthy glowy look, and it doesn’t just happen for me.

Also, Organic Rosehip oil (relatively cheap, soothing, and this is the exact one I have) helps for rosacea flareups or irritated skin day and night.

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Under the Skin: Mental Health Check-Ins

I love how Brene Brown suggests I can mindfully prevent a freak out:

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Since the 2020s seem to be about perpetually navigating global crises, if you answer #1, you might find there’s reason enough to freak. Yet #2 nudges us to go deeper.

Will a freakout help the situation?

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I don’t know about you, but I have felt stretched in fresh ways to become more intentionally responsive and less reactive as a result of living with so much uncertainty.

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Coping Ideas

Check in with you. Feeling a lot of things? Feel them, yet don’t judge yourself for feeling them or identify as damaged if you have mixed feelings.

Mixed feelings sometimes make us feel stuck, yet they are a NORMAL and common part of being human.

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Detox from social media. Make the bed. Take a shower. Massage a beautiful oil or serum into your skin and wear clothes that comfort you. Phone a friend.

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Self-Care Over 50: Daily Practices as well as Mindful Indulgences

Go for a walk or hop on a bike. Listen to an inspiring podcast, learn about history, create art for no good reason, and immerse yourself in books, poetry, music and art to break free from old thought patterns which may be keeping you stuck.

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Is there a daily practice you could try? Daily self-kindness practices like meditation help me get centered and less reactive. They help me to somehow transcend a lot of self-criticism, become more teachable and soft, and become more receptive for new ideas.

Just in Case You’re Thinking…

Should the thought occur: ‘Girl, I have responsibilities and no time like yer fortunate fairy self has for hippie dippie Kumbaya, I might suggest the busiest people most need time for self-kindnesses and meditative time away from thoughts.

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Self-Kindness Over 40: Daily Practices as well as Mindful Indulgences

We’re only here a little while. My chronic illness is a continual reminder I just just don’t have the time to NOT mature into a more loving, peaceful, imperfectly magnificent and wild student of the Divine Mystery.

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4. The Art of Homemaking

Not gonna lie. In my 20s and 30s, my super powers for maintaining a tidy nest were epic. Yet here I am, and I can only do smaller things with great love now. Forget about making it look easy…sounds exhausting.

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Turns out, working in little spurts on housecleaning, art projects, meal prep and home improvement still leads to progress. Once you stop equating “less than perfection” with fail, a whole new world of success stories emerge.

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So, yep, I was more productive at 40, but I’m a more self-respecting, non-people-pleaser at 57. There’s nothing to prove, and there never was!

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5. Healthy Breakfasts & Bread Making

I make time for a lovely healthy breakfast every morning, and my favorite one is HERE.

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For lunch, I add as many plants as I can with whatever else I’m eating. I find organic baby spinach is easy to add to almost everything I enjoy eating, from soups to pizza. If I am avoiding gluten, I’ll make this no-flour, no-knead healthy bread.

Following a healthy diet and preparing meals for my family remain important daily practices for me, and even my restricted diet and disease have not been able to rob me of such joy. But I also know I am very fortunate to have this appetite for food, life, love, and learning.

I count it a priceless gift.

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You too are a gift. Thanks for journeying with me and adding your own thoughts about how daily habits enrich your body, mind, and spirit.

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Peace to you right where you are.

-michele

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20 Comments

  1. Sharrie Mezzanotte
    July 3, 2020 / 7:47 am

    Dear Michele ,
    Sweet “friend”,thank you for the love and in letting us know that life is still good…we are all beautiful and always enough.
    Ever peace,
    Sharrie

    • Michele
      Author
      July 3, 2020 / 9:15 am

      Thanks so much for reading. πŸ™‚

  2. Mumbai
    July 3, 2020 / 11:32 am

    getting older means understand yourself better. So many things I would explain to my younger me but it is never to late to take care of your body and in particular your soul and spirit. Yoga and Meditation help me to stay healthy and a bit still young at 74. The inner peace is my greatest gift I have worked on my entire life. Best for you and stay healthy.

    • Michele
      Author
      July 3, 2020 / 1:58 pm

      Beautiful words of wisdom – thank you for bringing your peace here. xox

  3. Carole
    July 3, 2020 / 1:58 pm

    Thank you for the gift of your sweet words and open heart, Michele. I’m sorry that your early faith experience was so negative. Sadly, that can happen when we humans try to create God in our own image, rather than recognizing that it is the other way around.

    The COVID crisis is another example of how we can handle life poorly. It made us slow down and think, until we thought we saw (or wanted to see) light at the end of the tunnel. Then frustration reared it’s ugly head and we were off to the races again, because we are “so over this sheltering in place”. We look for someone, anyone, to blame for what could be a gift of time, but we can be too self-focused to receive it… It doesn’t look familiar. It requires patience. It must be bad. And, we look for someone, anyone, to give us hope. It makes us feel better about ourselves. Maybe the answer is to look for the truth. Not your truth or my truth or her truth or his truth, but The Truth. Not an easy answer in our current reactionary microwave society, but it is a Gift. May we be receptive.

    • Michele
      Author
      July 3, 2020 / 9:11 pm

      It does seem to be hard for many Americans to not play the blame game. I think there is a lot of mental illness going on as a result of the pause – and I’m so concerned about domestic violence which is on the rise for obvious reasons. Praying for peace and mercy to cover our land.

  4. July 3, 2020 / 3:56 pm

    Michele,
    I love your posts. They are always so inspiring and insightful. I ordered some Kul exfoliating cleanser. Thanks for sharing at Thursday Favorite Things.
    Take care my friend.
    Hugs,
    Bev

    • Michele
      Author
      July 3, 2020 / 9:05 pm

      Thanks so much, Bev. You’re going to love it! I haven’t used anything else like it, and it’s packed with stuff my skin loves. Happy weekend, friend.

  5. Marilyn S.
    July 3, 2020 / 4:44 pm

    You always always always bring it back around – it’s that sensible , peaceful wisdom (combined with humor) that I love .

    • Michele
      Author
      July 3, 2020 / 9:04 pm

      Thanks for the encouragement – that just made my night, Marilyn. Happy holiday weekend, and peace to you.

  6. Suziex
    July 3, 2020 / 8:04 pm

    Thank you for this beautiful post. I am new to your blog and I must say your blog
    provides me the peaceful retreat that I need. Thank you.

    • Michele
      Author
      July 3, 2020 / 9:04 pm

      It’s so lovely to have you here – thank you for taking the time to leave lovely footprints here. I hope you visit everyday!

      • Suzie
        July 4, 2020 / 7:45 am

        I do visit everyday. πŸ™‚ Stay safe and have a peaceful weekend.

        • Michele
          Author
          July 4, 2020 / 6:05 pm

          Thank you so much for your loyal following – wishing you peace and a happy holiday. πŸ™‚

  7. Deborah Klose
    July 4, 2020 / 1:37 pm

    You are real and delightful. Your posts always inspire.
    Thank you

    • Michele
      Author
      July 4, 2020 / 6:04 pm

      It’s so great to have you here – I appreciate your words so much. xox

  8. Amy
    July 6, 2020 / 4:58 pm

    So much love and wisdom and great product suggestions! Thanks for all! I’m always encouraged by what you share and I look forward to trying some of the products you mentioned. You’re always an inspiration in so many different ways! 😍

    • Michele
      Author
      July 6, 2020 / 7:58 pm

      So happy to hear it, Amy! Hope you and yours are holding steady during the pause and this historical adventure. Peace to you!

  9. July 9, 2020 / 8:13 am

    Such a much needed post for so many, Michele! I featured it at the TFT party so that many others can be soothed and encouraged. I’m grateful for your thoughtful insights all the time. I hope you’re have a feel good day today! xo

    • Michele
      Author
      July 9, 2020 / 12:34 pm

      Thank you so much, Pam. I am having a pretty good day after some rather hard ones. Thank you for your constant encouragement and support. See you soon over at TFT, friend. πŸ™‚

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