A lot of us can remember the moment we listened to storyteller and research professor Dr. Brené Brown’s Ted Talk(58+ million views on Ted’s site alone!). She talked about vulnerability in with a unique perspective: “vulnerability is the birthplace of innovation, creativity and change.” That was many years ago for me, and what a blessing to learn with greater clarity about true belonging, habits of compassionate people, and ideas about wholeheartedness to strengthen self-worth. In this post, you’ll find favorite Brené Brown Quotes as well as resources for prints, books and more.
“I’ve spent over 20 years studying the emotions and experiences that bring meaning and purpose to our lives, and if there’s one thing I’ve learned it’s this: We are hardwired for connection, and connecting requires courage, vulnerability, and conversation.”
–Brené Brown
Pssst. Did you know she has a podcast? It is a an amazing source of hope as we all confront painful emotions, crave a sense of perspective, and struggle with the discomfort of vulnerability.
Brené Brown Quotes: Courage, Empathy & Vulnerability
But why? Why make space for all these words about cultivating courage and leaning into deeper levels of vulnerability? Because we all have work to do. We all experience painful feelings of shame and long for a greater sense of purpose. I don’t care what your age is; there are ways we all need to grow.
It may be a small thing, but I can’t think of a single social problem in the culture that cannot in part be healed by: A CHANGE OF HEART, a willingness to get humble, a transformed spirit, a shifted mindset, and a long hard look in the mirror.
The Talk That Put Her Name on Our Lips
Brown encourages us to become more self-aware and discover a sense of belonging in spite of our imperfect selves.
I’m so grateful for the vocabulary her books have provided me. She discusses an addictive belief system, meaningful spiritual lives, wholehearted leadership, shame-based fear, and what healthy striving looks like.
Brown helps us better understand what healthy striving looks like. “Healthy striving is self-focused: How can I improve? Perfectionism is other-focused: What will they think?”
I truly wish her books and teachings had been available when I was a young parent with so many real questions and imperfect parenting moments as I aimed to raise happy children and made lots of mistakes.
What is it to live wholeheartedly? “To love someone fiercely, to believe in something with your whole heart, to celebrate a fleeting moment in time, to fully engage in a life that doesn’t come with guarantees.”
Best Selling Books by Brené Brown
The University of Houston professor often consults with corporate leaders. Concerning leadership, she says: “Courage is contagious. A critical mass of brave leaders is the foundation of an intentionally courageous culture.”
One of my favorite quotes from Brené Brown? “If you are not in the arena getting your ass kicked on occasion, I am not interested in or open to your feedback.”
In her discussion of our collection of choices, how perfectionism hampers success, and how rage and bad decisions are some of our greatest barriers, it is all balanced with reminders how we are worthy of love and how cultivating a whole heart is never a waste of time.
“Perfectionism is a twenty-ton shield that we lug around thinking it will protect us when, in fact, it’s the thing that’s really preventing us from taking flight.”— Brené Brown
The cultural importance of Brown’s work is so critical in the 2020s as depression, anxiety disorders, addiction, narcissism, entitlement, and life paralysis are pervasive issues.
What is authenticity according to Brown? “Authenticity is a collection of choices that we have to make every day. It’s about the choice to show up and be real.”
I appreciate Brown’s own vulnerability when she discusses spirituality, her own broken parts, and the necessity of letting go of our fear of uncertainty. Recognizing that so much of this territory is a place of mystery for most of us, she lends a helping hand by offering us new emotional vocabulary and sometimes a script.
Vulnerability Quotes From Brown
Brown often cautions us about comparison. She writes, “Nostalgia is also a dangerous form of comparison. Think about how often we compare our lives to a memory that nostalgia has so completely edited that it never really existed.”
Letting go of perfection and constant evaluation to embrace a greater level of self-acceptance is not a small thing and is a primary theme surfacing in this perfect book for perfectionists.
“Nothing has transformed my life more than realizing that it’s a waste of time to evaluate my worthiness by weighing the reaction of the people in the stands.”
“The mark of a wild heart is living out the paradox of love in our lives. It’s the ability to be tough and tender, excited and scared, brave and afraid — all in the same moment. It’s showing up in our vulnerability and our courage, being both fierce and kind.” – Brene Brown
Why should we even explore the shadows, our fear of the dark and our inadequacies? She writes: “Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light.”
Inspiring & Encouraging Wisdom Quotes
“Vulnerability is the birthplace of love, belonging, joy, courage, empathy, and creativity. It is the source of hope, empathy, accountability, and authenticity.”
Why even journey into wild territory? “When we are willing to risk venturing into the wilderness, and even becoming our own wilderness, we feel the deepest connection to our true self and to what matters the most.”
Courage is another recurring theme in Brown’s work. She writes, “If you trade in your authenticity for safety, you may experience… addiction, rage, blame, resentment, and inexplicable grief.”
“If we can share our story with someone who responds with empathy and understanding, shame can’t survive.”
Vulnerability is Not Oversharing
A lot of folks hear ‘vulnerability’ and think it means spilling their guts or disclosing a lot of personal material.
But that’s not it. Here is how BB explains the difference:
“Sharing appropriately, with boundaries, means sharing with people with whom we’ve developed relationships that can bear the weight of our story. The result of this mutually respectful vulnerability is increased connection, trust, and engagement.
Vulnerability without boundaries leads to disconnection, distrust, and disengagement. In fact…boundaryless disclosure is one way we protect ourselves from real vulnerability.”
Brene writes: “We cannot selectively numb emotions, when we numb the painful emotions, we also numb the positive emotions.”
Quotes to Pin About Trust & Relationships
“When I see people stand fully in their truth, or when I see someone fall down, get back up, and say, ‘Damn. That really hurt, but this is important to me, and I’m going in again’—my gut reaction is, ‘What a badass.”
Brené Brown Explains Blame
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Self-Kindness & Personal Growth Help
The Gifts of Imperfection
I’m not sure we can ever be reminded often enough that we are enough. But we are!
How Shame Shapes Us
Hand-Lettered Art With Quotes
GRACE MEANS THAT ALL OF YOUR MISTAKES NOW SERVE A PURPOSE INSTEAD OF SERVING SHAME.
I AM A RECOVERING PERFECTIONIST AND AN ASPIRING “GOOD-ENOUGHIST.”
SOMETIMES THE BRAVEST AND MOST IMPORTANT THING YOU CAN DO IS JUST SHOW UP.
Experience the Teaching of Brené Brown
Listen to Brené Brown’s teaching about trust taken from a poignant moment in her personal life as a parent:
If you don’t already have a Pinterest board devoted to meaningful quotes and words worth sharing, I hope you’ll create one and pin away!
FIND MORE QUOTES TO PIN here AND also here.
Calm Quote Worth Sharing
Here’s what Dr. Brown told Gwyneth Paltrow in a chat last year about becoming more calm and less reactive:
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Peace to you right where you are.
-michele
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Hi Michele,
Love these quotes from Brene. I’ve never read her books so thanks for introducing her to us! Hope you’re well my friend. You are an inspiration to me!
xoxo
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Thanks so much for considering them, Holly. My background in psychology and counseling paired with the fact I’m about the same age as Brene means her work resonates deeply with me. She is doing so much good in the world as her work contributes to improved relationships, communication, and self-acceptance. xox